The holiday season is often painted as the "happiest time of the year," filled with joy, laughter, and togetherness. But for many, it's a season that can feel heavy, challenging, and even isolating.
"I think it's important to normalize that," says Abby Moran, a licensed therapist with Safe Alliance. "The holidays can be extremely challenging, and that's okay."
If the holidays feel tough this year, Abby offers a heartfelt reminder: you're not alone. Here are her thoughts on how to find moments of joy that are uniquely yours this season, shared with empathy and understanding.
1. Set Boundaries
"Knowing your no's is key," Abby explains. "If someone asks you to do something you don't want to do, it's okay to say no." Boundaries are more than just saying no to others--they're also about honoring what you need. "Taking space for yourself is important, especially during the holidays. Sometimes we need alone time, and that's okay."2. Embrace Self-Care
"When we think about self-care, we often imagine bubble baths and face masks, which are fantastic," Abby says. "But self-care can also be simple and free."
It's about the small, meaningful things that make you feel like yourself:
- Taking a peaceful walk.
- Sipping a comforting cup of tea or lemon water.
- Listening to your favorite music.
"Self-care doesn't have to be complicated," Abby reminds us. "It's about doing what soothes and recharges you."
3. Be Mindful of Your Triggers
The holidays can bring up difficult emotions or memories. "Be okay with stepping away from things that don't feel safe for you," Abby advises. "And step into things that do feel safe."
This might mean reconnecting with people who make you feel supported and loved. "Lean on your safe people--those who help you feel like yourself."
4. Create New Traditions
Sometimes, old traditions can feel more draining than joyful. If that's the case, consider starting something new. "Think about what brings you comfort and meaning," Abby suggests.
This could be:
- Volunteering for a cause you care about.
- Taking a quiet, reflective trip.
- Creating simple moments just for you.
You're Not Alone
"The holidays can feel overwhelming, but know that you're not alone," Abby shares. "A lot of people struggle during this time, and it's okay to feel that way."
By setting boundaries, embracing self-care, connecting with safe people, and creating new traditions, you can start finding joy on your terms.
Let this season be about what matters most: you. Safe Alliance is here to support you every step of the way.
Take care of yourself--you deserve it.
