Consent isn't just a one-time conversation. It's a life skill. This guide is here to help you introduce the topic in a way that feels respectful, open, and non-judgmental.

Plan and Start the Conversation: 

• Taking time to plan can help you feel more confident and clear about what you want to share. When preparing, consider including these key elements:
  • A clear definition of consent
  • How to ask for and give consent
  • How alcohol or substances affect consent
    • being under the influence can make it impossible to give or get true consent.
• Before starting, take a moment to reflect on your own teen years and how you wanted adults to talk to you.
• Create space for this to be a one-on-one conversation. A private, judgment-free setting can make it easier.

Starting the Conversation
Starting the conversation about consent doesn't have to be perfect. It just needs to be open, respectful, and honest. Try one of these openers:

• "Hey, this might feel awkward, but I want to talk about something important. Consent. It's a big part of feeling safe and respected in any relationship."
• "That show you were watching got me thinking, do you ever talk about consent in school or with friends?"
• "I'm not here to lecture, I want to hear what you think, too. This is a conversation, not a one-way talk."

Common Questions & Supportive Responses

• "I already know this."
  • "That's awesome. I just want to add a few things and hear your take. School covers the basics, but real-life situations can get more complicated. I want you to feel prepared, for yourself or even if a friend comes to you."
• "This is more for girls. Guys don't have to worry about this as much."
  • "I get why it might seem that way, but consent matters for everyone. Anyone, no matter their gender, can be pressured or harmed. And everyone should know how to set their own boundaries and respect someone else's."
• "Isn't that common sense? If someone says no, you stop."
  • "Absolutely, that's a big part of it. But it's also about checking in and making sure the other person wants to say yes. Silence or a 'maybe' doesn't mean yes. Consent should feel clear and mutual. It applies to more than just physical stuff, like respecting someone's space, emotions, or when they change their mind."

Need Support? We're Here for You.
You don't have to figure this out alone. If you ever feel stuck or want parental guidance, call the Greater Charlotte Hope Line at 980-771-4673. We're here 24/7 for confidential support.