Why Your Support is Critical

  • 1 in 3 women will be impacted by sexual assault or domestic violence during their life time.
  • 3 women are killed each day in the USA by an intimate partner.
  • Every 2 minutes someone in the USA is sexually assaulted.
  • CMPD responded to more than 36,000 domestic violence related calls last year.
  • 1 in every 4 girls and 1 in every 6 boys will be sexually assaulted before their 18th birthday.

For the past 19 years a group of volunteers from the local business, civic and faith communities known as Men For Change has worked to raise funds and public awareness about the epidemic of domestic violence and the role men can play to model appropriate behaviors toward women while serving as role models for youth.

At this year's 20th Annual Men For Change breakfast and silent auction on April 25, 2017, we will honor the past noting our vibrant Leadership with a Legacy - and renew our commitment to the future of Safe Alliance, raising much-needed funds and awareness for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault.

20th Annual Men For Change Breakfast
Keynote Speaker: William Gay, Pittsburgh Steelers Cornerback
Tuesday, April 25th, 2017
Charlotte Convention Center
7:00AM - 9:00AM

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A Statement on Outing and Violence in LGBT Relationships

 Last week on the show, 'Survivor," a contestant, Zeke, was outed as transgender by one of his rivals in a last minute attempt to prevent being voted off the island.  Zeke's shock and surprise were evident, as was the other contestants' shock and anger.  Viewers no doubt felt a similar range of emotions as they watched the public broadcast of this violent act on national television, weeks after it had taken place. 

Outing a member of the LGBTQ community is always a deplorable act. The decision to come out when, to whom, and how is personal and private. Making that decision for another person robs them of their individual agency.

Outing a member of the LGBTQ community is also a violent and abusive act. Even when a person controls the decision to come out, they face judgment, isolation, and condemnation.  When they are 'outed' and lose control over the process, the fear is amplified.    They no longer have the ability to convey their message in the way they choose, and have no time to mentally prepare for the reactions of others. 

Historically, domestic and sexual violence have been cast as women's issues. Men perpetrate violence against women. In reality, people of all genders, gender identities, and sexual orientations are victims (and perpetrators) of domestic and sexual violence. Indeed, the prevalence of domestic and sexual violence within the LGBTQ community is equal to or greater than within broader population.   One in four women and one in 33 men will be a DV victim. Within the LGBTQ community, one in five men and one in three women experience DV. An alarming 50-60% of transgender individuals will experience sexual assault at some point in their lives. 

Sadly, outing and the fear of outing are common tactics abusers use to control their victims in intimate partner relationships. The isolation that many people in the LGBT community face due to homophobia can be used by a batterer to keep control over their partner.  Using small communities, since there are limited numbers of open and affirming community spaces for the LGBT community, is another powerful tactic. This, in addition to more traditional battering tactics physical, emotional, financial serve to prevent victims from exiting an abusive relationship.

Deciding how and when to come out is a deeply personal decision for every LGBT person.  It is something that only they have the right to decide.  At Safe Alliance, we believe in supporting these individuals, and respecting their right to 'out' themselves when they feel the time is right.  We are dedicated to providing the same quality services to members of the LGBT community.  No one, including Zeke, should have the decision to come out made for them by someone else. 

In an emergency please dial 911

To reach a domestic violence or rape crisis hotline 24/7 call the appropriate number below

Mecklenburg and Lake Norman
Domestic Violence Crisis Line:
704 332 2513
Mecklenburg and Lake Norman
Rape Crisis Line:
704 375 9900
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